The therapist – client/patient relationship is known as the therapeutic relationship (TR) or the therapeutic alliance (TA). The relationship’s quality is the prime predictor of positive change and success. Some people and even therapists might think it is simple to create this alliance. The reality is different. About 50% of patients drop out of therapy before getting the help they need,Early withdrawal from mental health treatment: implications for psychotherapy practice (Barrett et al., 2008) with approximately 35% of patients ending therapy after a single session.Studies of “Dropout” patients in psychotherapy: A review of findings (Brandt, 1966)
And research shows that if you have not gotten results in the first seven sessions, you will be unlikely to get better with that therapist. (There are caveats to this in more traumatized patients.)
The therapeutic alliance is not only a kind relationship. The vital qualities of such an alliance emphasize acceptance, empathy, and non-judgment. It is a relationship designed to accomplish a task — to help the patient change for the better.
To create the TA, specific ingredients are required, without which change does not happen.
So you are looking for a relationship that focuses on your goals, with a therapist that is invested and cares about you.